Working With Relationships

Safe & Sound Counselling

Working With Relationships

Remember, Reflect, Repair & Reconnect!!

I work with Relationships to foster a more beneficial and productive form of communication. This is in part using the principles of Non-Violent Communication and is an attachment and trauma-informed practice, as I fully understand and respect the significant role our attachment styles and past trauma can play in the breakdown of relationships. I also help you understand the love languages we all have that help us to feel loved and appreciated and that these can be at odds with each other, causing upset and frustration which can then breed hurt and resentment and feelings of being misunderstood, unloved, or under-appreciated.

I support each relationship by offering a safe and equal space for each person to feel heard and understood, with my focus being on your relationship and helping both of you offer and then hopefully, reach your desired outcomes moving forward. I aim to empathically support the exploration required by each of you which can be difficult, but you will not be doing it alone and I will be there to help and encourage your exploration, by holding a safe and respectful space free from judgment. (This form of counselling can also be used with family members who feel their relationship with their family member has become difficult or more distant and both would like a space to try and resolve this).

I offer a space that welcomes all relationship constellations and I have taken further training to receive a certificate in Diversity within Contemporary Relationships as I wish to offer a place for all relationships to have their safe space and their voiceheard and understood!

For all relationships, I aim to work by breaking it into my 4 easy to understand elements of helping clients to get their relationship to where they want it to be and to create a new love experience in that relationship.

REMEMBER

Helping you to remember what brought you together and created the love in the first place, this may seem so very far away but there was something!!! Also helping to appreciate and remember the many little, but very important things that may have been lost over time.

REFLECT

Helping you to reflect on the part each is playing in the situation and how our past situations, family of origin, past relationships, and many life experiences can be playing a part without us even being aware!

REPAIR

Conflict is a healthy part of life and actually shows an emotional investment in that relationship….if we didn’t care it wouldn’t hurt, get us angry, or affect us in the ways it does. I aim to help with repair at times of conflict which is the crucial element. Conflicts will happen in any relationship, it is about how the attempt to repair happens that is the important thing and can lead to lasting and life-affirming changes to your relationship.

RECONNECT

By putting the time and effort into this process, you can truly reconnect and find a whole new life and love experience within your relationship.

It’s not about getting back what you had as that was in ways dysfunctional as it has brought you to the place you are where you feel you need to do something about it. Instead, it is about working together as a team, with my full support to find out what truly

happened and why, and start a new experience of love and connection together working around and with any issues to have a more fulfilling and happy life together.

I know from personal experience how hard this process can be, looking at the deepest parts of ourselves and the most painful elements of our experiences that have led (often unconsciously) to where we are in our relationship. Looking at childhood traumas that

at times can still emerge, family of origin messages/experiences, other life experiences plus our clashing love languages, made it a tough road with more than one speed bump and a massive breakdown! However, I also know the joyous, rewarding, and life-changing

experience it can be to come out the other side of that work, as it really did change the 30-year marriage of my husband and I as we moved into OUR new love and life together!

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Let me help you find your new life together. There is always hope and the fact you are visiting and reading this page shows there is. Contact me to discuss a free 30-minute introductory conversation about how I can help you

REMEMBER, REFLECT, REPAIR & RECONNECT!!